THE dating scene can be difficult to navigate at the best of times, but one woman is still reeling from her experience.
The unpleasant debacle has gone viral with 374,000 likes and over 18,000 comments.
She canceled her date while he was on the way to pick her up.
But the text he sent her was breathtaking and she is still in shock over it.
Utsha Saha (@shahutasaha) was so staggered, that she had to off-load to her 13,000 followers.
“I’m in shock and I need to tell people what just happened,” she said in her post.
“I’m dressed to get dinner tonight and this man is on his way and he’s booked dinner and he’s coming to pick me up.”
So far, so good. But half an hour before he is due to arrive he sends her a text.
Utsha is almost speechless: “I kid you not, word for word, [this is what he said]: “Alright you shallow b*tch, don’t judge my car. I’ve had it since I was 18 and no one has a car in London.”
Incredulity and despair are written all over her face: “He is a 30+ man who has a normal career.
“We barely have a friendly relationship. It’s only our second time getting dinner together.”
She is stunned he thinks it is okay to call her that word.
“I barely call my friends cuss words. I have very little tolerance for cuss words especially with men I go on dates with, and this really threw me off.”
Utsha was unsettled by the exchange and told her brother what happened as she was getting ready.
Her wise brother told her to cancel dinner.
She felt bad about pulling out because this guy was already on his way.
“Then I thought to myself, this is not okay for me. And these are my standards,” she said.
“I don’t want to get dinner with someone that can just call me that whenever they want.”
He arrived, she explained her position, and he left.
But he wasn’t finished, and called to complain, only to hang up on her.
“And then ten minutes later he sent her a long** apology,” she said, feeling baffled.
“This is a grown man over 30 thinking it’s okay to call a woman a b*tch before coming to pick her up for dinner.”
She was undeterred, however, and satisfied she had done the right thing.
“You know what? When one door closes another opens, because another sweet boy is planning the next date for us.
“The moral of the story is, don’t be afraid to cut people off on the first go because what the hell.”
Commenters said she did the right thing.
“You dodged a bullet. Don’t ever let a man disrespect you,” said this person.
It was a similar view from another: “Good for you. People with no boundaries invite disrespect.”
This person backed her up all the way: “You made the right decision. Move forward with him and don’t look back.”
Heads up to her smart brother, said this person.
“First of all, your brother is a gem. He knows that’s disrespect. Secondly, girl, you didn’t let your standards down to be trampled. You won.”
