J-LO and Ben Affleck are muscling their way through their love rematch and making a big show of it, a relationship expert has claimed.
And she thinks it’s because J-Lo is fretting about her fans doubting her, while Ben is walking on thin ice.
Relationship expert Jo Hemmings told The U.S. Sun: “Ben won’t get a third chance, which is why we see him glued to J-Lo’s side and if she gets one whiff of him behaving badly then he won’t be forgiven.
“Ben’s behavior must reflect the words he uses and has to prove he has matured and is ready for the life that she was ready for two decades ago.
“For Jennifer, all the reconciliation doubters will be back in force and because their fans had to make their choice of ‘sides’ back in the day, she knows that now they’re expected to embrace their newly reignited relationship.
“She cares more about what her followers think than she might be willing to admit, and by them both making public statements – whether in a song, a ring, or a social media post – they’re reinforcing their tenacity to make this work.”
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, who rekindled their romance after a 20-year hiatus, are now in their honeymoon phase following two weddings earlier this year and have been busy showing the world they’re meant to be.
Even recently, the 53 -year-old pop star revealed in an interview that her exquisite green diamond engagement ring is engraved with the words “Not. Going. Anywhere,” explaining: “That’s how he would sign his emails when we started talking again.”
J-Lo then went on to describe how the words meant so much to her that she included them in her new album, This Is Me… Now.
As well as posting reams of photos and videos of the pair together online, J-Lo has also been spotted out and about draped in plenty of custom jewelry such as a Jennifer & Ben necklace, a Ben necklace, and one that says Mrs.
“In J-Lo’s case, she has already had one long-term relationship with Ben, and had all the scrutiny that went with that and so now she’s back with him – and social media has grown massively in that intervening period,” explains Jo.
“J-Lo has to steer a careful path between showing how much they’re serious, genuine, and committed so the jewelry, being glued to each other’s sides and lots of purring posts of togetherness – yet not going overboard in sickly sweetness or simply looking like she’s trying too hard.
“And for Ben he has to exactly mirror her mood and tone at all times, or the speculation machine will start to whirr into action.
“More than anything else, if they’re not precisely in sync in their public presentation and on social media, people will judge them.
“This judgment may go onto to cause friction, even arguments, in their relationship, so this is Ben’s final chance to show that he really means business, commitment wise.”
Ben and J-Lo first met in 2002 on the set of the movie Gigli when she was married to her first husband dancer Chris Judd.
When J-Lo divorced and she was snapped kissing Ben on board a luxury yacht, the pair went on to enjoy a whirlwind romance and snap engagement with J-Lo sporting a stunning 6 carat pink diamond engagement ring.
She even went on to release “Jenny From the Block” music video showing footage of the pairs increasingly public romance.
But in a shock twist and as cheating claims surfaced, Ben and J-Lo’s wedding was called off, with the pair citing excessive media attention as the cause.
Jennifer went on to marry singer Marc Anthony and had two kids, with Ben coupling up with the actress, Jennifer Garner and having three with her.
By April this year Ben and J-Lo were engaged again, but this time around as she showed off a stunning green diamond engagement ring, the pair continued to tell the world they’re closer than ever.
“J-Lo is a ESFJ (extraverted, sensing, feeling, judging) personality type so she’s supportive and nurturing, sociable and empathetic,” explains Jo.
“She takes commitment and loyalty very seriously and we can see that in her songs and her determination.
“Ben is an ESTP personality type (extraverted, sensing, thinking, perceiving) and so these two types work best when they have resolved a lot of issues, taken time to get to know each other, and recognize that initial sexual attraction may not be enough in itself.
“These two are highly compatible but only once they’ve overcome hurdles, and have a rare but enduring connection.
“There may also be some residual concerns that it they’d spent more time together, back in the day it would have worked for them the first time around.
“I’m not convinced that is the case, but they may feel that this is the best way for them to work out, this time around by and will be making up for lost time and spending a lot of time by each other’s sides.”
